tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post4146021639226329356..comments2023-11-28T18:19:36.734-10:00Comments on Rapid Life: At Risk?wendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03468751357831063842noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-7987169658854505812008-03-13T17:46:00.000-10:002008-03-13T17:46:00.000-10:00This is absurd. And now I'm irritated too. You kno...This is absurd. And now I'm irritated too. You know, my own father-in-law told me it was irresponsible for us to have children while J was in the military for just this reason. That they would be resentful of us and never have the ability to form close lasting relationships. Poppycock. It's ridiculous. Maybe I'll just have to write a little letter to that magazine. (lol)Kerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07704740916456706468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-20859874771719335312008-03-11T22:37:00.000-10:002008-03-11T22:37:00.000-10:00Mary - you make a really good point - it is so tru...Mary - you make a really good point - it is so true that my attitude really affects my kids. Maybe it's the mom's that should be labeled At Risk...wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03468751357831063842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-3598626932903398662008-03-11T18:53:00.000-10:002008-03-11T18:53:00.000-10:00Your post really made me think too. This deploymen...Your post really made me think too. This deployment that we are currently going through is our fourth in 5 years. My children have had different reactions to each deployment. I found in looking back that when I have had a positive attitude towards the deployment and when I have felt confident that we were going to make it through okay that my kids have acted better. I am happy to say that both of my boys are thriving and doing well during this deployment. When I have felt discouraged or angry about the deployments in the past, my kids have acted out. I would never classify my kids as at risk. I feel that my family has grown closer from our experiences in the military. Maybe we are just lucky.Mary Petersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11940559371864868433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-29659487218368934742008-03-10T11:22:00.000-10:002008-03-10T11:22:00.000-10:00Very interesting post. I think a lot of it comes d...Very interesting post. I think a lot of it comes down to how the family (the parent(s) deployed, the caretakers, the parent left behind) handles it. I can see where it would be easy for the extra stress to take a toll on the parent left behind, but like you said, you try to keep homelife as normal as possible. I'm with you about grouping military folks in with violent druggies. Not that the military doesnt have its black sheep but thats a pretty wide net to cast.<BR/><BR/>Now that mine are a little more aware, the elder will occasionally say something or ask a question that makes me wonder what must be going thru his mind sometimes. How do you really explain to a 3 year old why daddy is here one day and gone the next over and over and over again. But alas, its like everything in parenting, one foot in front of the other, you try to make it thru as best you can.The Mrs.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05390271129994451360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-30431417731653595422008-03-10T11:14:00.000-10:002008-03-10T11:14:00.000-10:00ITA with Tori and ann m.They should have made a di...ITA with Tori and ann m.<BR/>They should have made a distinction in the article.<BR/>>:(Super Happy Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15669901597597136922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-49120359048932203112008-03-10T05:15:00.000-10:002008-03-10T05:15:00.000-10:00I don't think it's right to group all military chi...I don't think it's right to group all military children living with their grandparents and other at-risk children. I believe that parents who are deploying are not CHOOSING to behave in risky behavior that makes them unfit parents and need/force/allow someone else to care for their children. Deploying parents usually would rather raise their own kids but can't. Leaving them with grandparents or other family is just the best option they have.Ann M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07450730528995565892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-29053718947029110412008-03-10T04:08:00.000-10:002008-03-10T04:08:00.000-10:00Children who are "at risk" aren't just from milita...Children who are "at risk" aren't just from military families. I used to work for an attorney who worked for the county. She had hundreds of kids as "clients" who were in protective custody because they had been neglected, abused, misused, etc. In the year I worked for her I did not come across one who was from a military family. I'm not saying this kind of stuff doesn't happen in the military because I have no doubt that it does. Is simply that the military side is a part of a much bigger problem.Mrs. Mootzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11352089014962521820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-20062453345626485952008-03-10T03:36:00.000-10:002008-03-10T03:36:00.000-10:00I dont think it's right to group them all in the s...I dont think it's right to group them all in the same thing either. I think this post was very eye-opening. <BR/>Love the pic!!Tori :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14963896000691417017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-66404753156207478812008-03-10T02:32:00.000-10:002008-03-10T02:32:00.000-10:00That's insane. I'm going to have to think on that...That's insane. I'm going to have to think on that one before I say anything, lol.ABWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05544504553967017050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-61643443931064221702008-03-09T23:32:00.000-10:002008-03-09T23:32:00.000-10:00I think a lot of people want to talk about it but ...I think a lot of people want to talk about it but don't know how. I know our school struggles with problems related to frequent military moves and deployments. <BR/><BR/>But wowza! that neighborhood sounds fascinating. I've seen some odd things, but nothing to that extent. Scary! Maybe I'm living in my own little happy bubble, I'm going to have to do some investigating...wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03468751357831063842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8270568.post-73920813881698517382008-03-09T22:31:00.000-10:002008-03-09T22:31:00.000-10:00I have witnessed some horrible HORRIBLE neglect of...I have witnessed some horrible HORRIBLE neglect of military children when the father deploys. And I'm not meaning when he's been gone 5 or 6 months, I mean the day after he leaves. Our culdesac in Housing in Norfolk had multiple homes being investigated by CPS. Everything you can think of... leaving infants with a 5 year old to baby site, locking 5 and 6 year olds out of the house while the mother took off to Applebee's with her friend, filthy homes, one woman's kid ended up with a cigarette burn on it's butt (she claims it flew down the diaper while she was driving... imagine the "magic bullet" action that had to happen on that one!), to one home where the middle child (about 3 was so malnurished people thought it was it's younger sibling the baby. Some of this was even right with the fathers home, some the fathers were gone. This was ONE BLOCK in ONE Navy Housing complex. WHile of course not everyone treats their kids like this... it is obviously a problem that no one is wanting to talk about.Battleship Bettie - Proud Navy Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13812446561870539051noreply@blogger.com